February 10, 2004
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My banner is made by tooty’s daughter Vadda the picture is me lol now im a tiger (((roar))) im doing a link button for her. Isnt it nice!!! Thank you Vadda.. love you aunt Fancy
Learning to say no to those who use you and make you feel guilty for having to say … i cant do that!
Ever been there anyone? Most of us have ill bet! But when it come’s to the place the person who would ask you to do thing’s that they know you aren’t able to do and then make you feel guilty if you dont hop right to there request is ….abuse!
It’s hard to say no to those you love isnt it.But i have had to learn to say NO! But im feeling like i can handel it a little better now.Yesterday my visit with my Dr. was helpful to me but i have had mood swings from hell i can tell you’ll.
The Dr. say’s im Bipoler and have Anixiety Disorder .In the past i thought i was going nut’s and tried to hide it from family.Well now i see that my family is a lot of my mentel problems.Im not saying it was there fault im just saying i didnt know how to say ( No) sorry i cant do that ! After all im the head of the family arnt i …not!
Ive been scared to take medications for my illness but now ive come to know i have to give them a chance. You’ll know ive had disapointments lately and im having to deal with some thing’s most of us wouldnt know how to deal with. But ill be ok i just need a little help and i have to face it that im not super woman lol.
Some day soon ill have something to blog about light hearted and fun .But for now every thing isnt hunky dorrey lol.And im not going to beat myself because i dont feel like smiling all the time and ignoring my troubles. Im not throwing away hope… promice you’ll im not .Now i know whats wrong and im not wacko!
Thanks pepsiluver for the animations.
I wanted to add Builder is so supportive of me and is so much help right now to me.Arnt i lucky to have him! Tooty thank’s for being there for me also i love you to! To all of you who have sent me e-mails thank you i have had a hard time understanding all ive gone through.I know im not alone but ive been so mixed up and satan had tried to make me feel so alone .I believe ive been ashamed of myself and felt like i was weak and not trying hard enough. Im still trying to hold it togeather!
To those i missed visiting ill be back after dinner to visit more.
Comments (18)
God bless your heart sweetie, just be who you are. You know sometimes we think we are so good at hiding, but truly sugar we see past all the hiding and we love the woman behind it. No need to be who you aren’t, we just want who you are cause that will be the very best you, full of good and bad just like all of us… Praying so hard for you, please take the medication God answers prayers through medication too. Love you, Cathie Jo
Sometimes we need medicine to help us deal with whatever is making us depressed and anxious until we can heal from it but I can tell you that there is deliverance from all kinds of illnesses including whatever the doctor says you have. There is the almighty Word of God which is more Powerful that any pronouncement of illness. Take the medicine honey until you are healed but when you can pray and read God’s Word because “For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” 1 Corinthians 14:33
and (((((BIG HUGS)))))
You HAVE been missing in action! I don’t like it when you’re not around!
it’s hard to deal with our problems, sometimes, but please know that you don’t walk alone. . . God walks with you, and you clearly have friends to support you. We tend to be afraid to talk about “mental problems” as though they are different from physical ones. That’s too bad, because none of us chooses to be ill, ever. I’m proud of your strength and courage to address your health issues. Take heart….having the smarts and strength to get help with health issues is a good sign of getting better — I believe that you will– and hope it’s soon. Take care, and God bless you and yours.
Who has never been anxious ? who has never felt guilty ? No one , I can reassure you Fancy . Only perhaps a little too much sensitive . Yes in any cases we have to say no . So you become a reference and not someone who say always yes , yes yes …
I encourage you .
Love
Michel
i deal with it all time with my husband.,.,,, as he does with me…It;’s hard, I ffeel so guilty after, then i think of *omg what if i never see him again** Then i get more mad at myself….
I think that’s one of the first things we have to learn in life…..to say “no” when asked to do things that we can’t, or don’t feel comfortable about. Others should never expect you to do this. It is abuse to a certain extent. You should never feel guilty about not smiling all the time, or trying to pretend things are great, when they’re not either. We all have periods of depression and feelings of being “down”. I’m much the same, Betty in not feeling great all the time.
We’re here to listen and support you, so please feel free to talk here, as we never judge or “expect” certain things from you. ((((Hugs)))
I love your antique looking page!
My sweet Fancy…*hugs*…sometimes friends as us can never say no…& even if we say no it is usually portrayed as a yes…lol…BTW…I love ur cute caricature images..always gives this cowboy here a warm feeling….wishing the both of you a Happy Valentine’s day…Plz try ur best to enjoy it hun!
great to see you back
have a good week and happy valentine’s day!!!!
you’ve taken the first step by admitting and taken the second by doing something about it … my #3 is a.d.h.d. w/o her meds even for one day she gets really depressed and weepy .. mental health problems need to be addressed so the individual won’t feel sorry or hurt themselves or others … but most of all you and all the others need to feel good about yourself … and the other, to have support … so go have a great hump day wednesday!!! hope this comment made sense … aloha
HUGS-LOVEyour 22
love the moveing photo thats so cute.
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Hi, welcome back ! you seems few sick..but I’m glad your new blog is so exciting change and nice music from here..wish you’ll get fine so fast..spring come more soon..! /N
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Saying no is very, very difficult, but we all have to learn to do it. I am so glad that Builder is there to give you so much support and that you are seeing a path now.
Nothing wrong with taking meds. I have been on and off anti-depression meds for 6 years. I do not like taking them, but can not function very well without them. Hang in there.
hiyahiya!!!
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will be praying for you both .. keep your chin up dear .. i’m sure things will get better soon enough .. God bless you and guide you in all that you do!!!
mrkool
My son is taking a medicine that has changed his whole life. He says he feels really great and he anxiety has gone.